75 Ways To Stay Unhappy Forever

Dale Carnegie once said, “It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It’s what you think about.”

I don’t think anyone could say it any better than that. I’ve watched so many friends search tirelessly for happiness by changing jobs, moving to new cities, pursuing intimate relationships, and tweaking all sorts of other external factors in their lives. And guess what? They’re still unhappy. Because they spend all of their time and money adding positive externals to their lives when their internals are still in the negatives.

So with that in mind, here are 75 ways to stay unhappy forever. Of course, I would highly recommend you read each bullet point and then move swiftly in the opposite direction.

1.Dwell on things that happened in the past.

2.Obsess yourself with all the things that might happen in the future.

3.Complain about problems instead of taking the necessary steps to resolve them.

4.Fear change and resist it.

5.Work hard, do your best and then condemn yourself for not achieving perfection.

6.Belittle yourself.

7.Hang out with other people who belittle you.

8.Try to control everything and then worry about the things you can’t control.

9.Lie to yourself and those around you.

10.Keep doing the same thing over and over again.

11.Be lazy and follow the path of least resistance.

12.Hold onto anger. Never forgive anyone.

13.Always be right. Never let anyone else be more right than you.

14.Compare yourself unfavorably to those who you feel are more successful.

15.Let small issues snowball into big problems.

16.Never learn anything new.

17.Never take responsibility for your own actions.

18.Blame everyone around you.

19.Don’t ask for directions and don’t ask questions.

20.Don’t let anyone help you.

21.Quit when the going gets tough.

22.Be suspicious. Trust no one.

23.Get four hours of sleep every night and convince yourself that it’s enough.

24.Never throw anything way. Even if you don’t use it, hold onto it.

25.Say “yes” to everyone. Fill all your time with commitments.

26.Try to be everyone’s friend.

27.Multitask, multitask, multitask! Do everything at once.

28.Never spend any time alone.

29.Don’t help others unless you have to. Do only the things that benefit you directly.

30.Hang out with people who complain about everything.

31.Focus on what you don’t want to happen.

32.Fear the things you don’t fully understand.

33.Always seek external validation before you consider yourself good enough.

34.Take everything and everyone in life seriously.

35.Spend your life working in a career field you aren’t passionate about.

36.Focus on the problems.

37.Think about all the things you don’t have.

38.Read or watch lots of depressing news from broadcast media.

39.Set lofty goals for yourself and never do anything to achieve them.

40.Never exercise.

41.Only eat junk food and fried food.

42.Never check-up on your health.

43.Setup your lifestyle so it revolves around money.

44.Spend more than you earn and rack up lots of financial debt.

45.Don’t say what you mean. Don’t mean what you say.

46.Frown.

47.Never tell anyone how you feel or what you’re thinking.

48.Make sure everything you do impresses someone else.

49.Always put your own needs on the back burner.

50.Get involved in other people problems and make them your own.

51.Make others feel bad about themselves.

52.Watch TV for several hours every day.

53.Gamble often.

54.Stay in the same place. Don’t travel.

55.Don’t play, just work.

56.Let your hobbies go.

57.Let your close relationships go.

58.Never finish what you start.

59.Take everything personally.

60.Do lots of drugs. Drink lots of alcohol.

61.Never say, “I’m sorry.” Never say, “I love you.”

62.Don’t work hard at anything.

63.Always wait until the last minute.

64.Believe that, no matter what, you are entitled to things.

65.Let others make decisions for you.

66.Remember the insults. Forget the compliments.

67.Let it all bottle up inside.

68.Rely on others for everything.

69.Fail to plan.

70.Don’t dream.

71.Don’t think about the future at all.

72.Always disregard other people’s opinions and suggestions.

73.Make promises you can’t keep.

74.Don’t decide on anything, ever.

75.Just keep going and going and going. And never ever stop.

And now that you know what not to do, let me tell you a secret about happiness. Nobody is happy all of the time. It’s perfectly normal to experience considerable fluctuations in your level of happiness from day to day, month to month, and even year to year.

In fact, according to a recent scientific study, overall levels of happiness decline from one’s teens until one’s 40s and then pick up again until they peak in one’s early 70s. So the chances are that your happiest days are yet to come. Hopefully that gives you something to smile about.

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5 Simple ways to live a life you love (as feat. in lifehack.org)

The quickest way to living a life you love is through learning to love the life you live.

You’re waiting for something to change in your life before you can be happy. You might think if only you had a different partner (or one at all), a better job, or kids that did their homework then surely you’d be happy. Surely then you’d wake each morning with the glow of one living a life worth loving. Enough! Here are 5 ways to get started:

1. Be present – You must be aware of your current existence and that you have control over your perspective. Whether you’re willing away early morning grouchiness or seeing a messy house as a chance to teach teamwork, your choice of perspective will make all the difference between just living and loving.

2. Practice gratefulness – Every day, no excuses. Pretend to be grateful if you must. It’s one of those things that catches up to you quickly as life reciprocates your emotional generosity. Seeing the good in your life will allow you to keep your heart fed while you work to change the more unsavory parts. Try it. Live it. You’ll love it.

3. Pursue balance – As a person given to extremes this has always been a tough one for me. I’ll go from taking great care of myself and communicating well to abandonment and silence as I let work consume me. The pursuit of balance requires constant adjustment as your life shifts but every time I really try for the middle I end up happier about my life. And that’s truly the point.

4. Nurture friendships – You know the people who for some reason or other welcome you into their lives? Treasure them. Make time to spend with them. It is those relationships that you’ll look back on with satisfaction when you get old and begin to wonder what your life was worth. Many of us spend far too much time thinking about how some material possession will improve our lives. An iMac would be nice. A good friend is worth just about everything though!

5. Embrace simplicity – You don’t need to have all your gold-plated ducks in a row in order to love the life you’re living. You don’t need lots of stuff and relationships so driven by drama that you often wish just to be left alone in silence. Instead you might try for a simpler approach and enjoy things because they are useful and not because they are expensive. You might join a friend just to talk and not worry about all the expensive trappings we so often heap on get-together’s. Try for simplicity and if complexity sneaks up on you, so be it. In learning to love the basics you’ll find a wondrous appreciation for the nicer things that come along.

What have you found helps bring you back to the moment you’re in and really start to enjoy the life you’re living right now?

Ten Life Lessons from Richard Branson

Richard Branson clearly knows a thing or two about success. At 20, he started a mail order shop, and opened a recording studio a short while later. Now, the Virgin brand boasts dozens of companies and Branson’s net worth is estimated to be more than 3 billion pounds sterling.

As well as immense business success, Branson has personally broken a number of world records for high-speed boat and balloon journeys.

Often witty, always insightful, here are some choice Branson quotes to ponder. Motivation often comes from unique places so if one of these strikes a chord, use it!

1.”Ridiculous yachts and private planes and big limousines won’t make people enjoy life more.”

I suppose we all know deep down that money won’t make us happy. Of course, money is nice – it brings freedom and opportunities and can be a wonderful recourse. It can contribute to happiness, even. But happiness itself is another thing – it’s independent of anything else. Buddha wrote, ‘there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.’

2.”I enjoy every single minute of my life.”

For me, this is the most important thing to remember. When you’re enjoying what you do, you’re more likely to do it well and to be successful. Enjoying every situation is an art, a skill, and can be developed. Maybe it comes naturally to some people, but for most of us, it takes a little practice. But believe me, it will make an enormous difference to the quality of your life.

3.”But the majority of things that one could get stressed about, they’re not worth getting stressed about.”

I read somewhere that the most common ‘commandment’ given in the bible is not to worry. Being stressed and worried about things is just a waste of energy – it never helps. I highly recommend Dale Carnegie’s book, How to Stop Worrying and Start Living. It contains invaluable, practical advice for those of us inclined to worry about things.

4.”You can’t be a good leader unless you generally like people. That is how you bring out the best in them.”

Obviously, we live in a social world, and it is almost impossible to physically cut yourself off from other people. But, how we interact with others is vitally important to our happiness and success. Getting along with people – allowing them to be themselves, bringing out the best, encouraging them – these are the hallmarks of good leaders and good friends.

5.”There is no one to follow, there is nothing to copy.”

Life is always fresh and new. We are always on the leading edge, and the successes of the future will not rely on old ways of doing things. Thinking outside the box, embracing change, innovating, taking risks – these are the hallmarks of success in all facets of life.

6.”I can honestly say that I have never gone into any business purely to make money. If that is the sole motive, then I believe you are better off doing nothing.”

Money is a by-product. It is not a goal in itself. Those who simply chase money end up with nothing of true value, because money in itself does not add anything to life. Money cannot buy the things that matter most in people – wisdom, serenity, leadership, happiness.

7.”I never had any intention of being an entrepreneur.”

Funny how things turn out! We certainly need to know where we are going in life, but we also need to remain open to new possibilities. Things have a tendency to change and if we are prepared to sail with the wind, and not fight against it, life can take us on wonderful adventures, and we can end up in the most magical places. I can attest to this in my own life, as I’m sure many readers can.

8.”I made and learned from lots of mistakes.”

How else can we learn? Think back to when you learned any new skill – driving a car, cooking, learning a language. Of course you messed it up! Taking risks, trying new things, learning – these things always involve making mistakes. So don’t fear mistakes – be proud of them!

9.”If you can indulge in your passion, life will be far more interesting than if you’re just working.”

Someone said that if you enjoy your job, you’ll never have to work another day. Not everyone can go out and ‘indulge their passion’ right away, but there is good to found in all jobs, and if we focus on the good things, looking for that which is pleasing and which, perhaps, we can influence, it will expand. This kind of proactively is the basis of Stephen Covey’s The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, another book I highly recommend.

10.”Right now I’m just delighted to be alive and to have had a nice long bath.

This quote reminds me of a scene from the wonderful British comedy movie, Clockwise. John Cleese’s character is trying to get to a conference but, after many trials and tribulations, he ends up stranded in a monastery. Sitting in a room with a monk, covered in mud, clothes torn, he asks, ‘what should I do?’ The monk simply replies: ‘Have a bath, perhaps?’

We can be so focused on the big picture stuff that we forget that life is a series of moments, each of which has its simple pleasures. Whatever life brings, it is good to be thankful for the many little pleasures each day has to bring.

‘When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive – to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love’ (Marcus Aurelius)
 
 
Written on 11/24/2010 by Mr. Self Development who is a motivational author that offers a practical guide to success and wealth; support him by visiting his blog at mrselfdevelopment.com or by subscribing to his feed.